Bible Question:

What do you do when the pastor says no money will be taken up at the door for any program at the church, but later money was taken at the door for a program?

Bible Answer:

I would encourage you to go to your pastor and ask for an explanation. I would encourage you to talk with your pastor and ask him why money was collected at the door when he had previously said that would never occur. The issue you are struggling with is his integrity. When he says, “Yes” does he mean, “Yes”? Jesus said in Matthew 5:37 that our “yes” should be “yes” and our “no” should be “no.”

Psalms 15 also tells us that a man of integrity will keep a promise even to his own hurt

O LORD, who may abide in Your tent? Who may dwell on Your holy hill? He who walks with integrity, and works righteousness, and speaks truth in his heart. He does not slander with his tongue, nor does evil to his neighbor, nor takes up a reproach against his friend; in whose eyes a reprobate is despised, but who honors those who fear the LORD; He swears to his own hurt and does not change . . . (NASB) Psalm 15:1-4

Many people, including politicians, make promises that they do not plan to keep. This is common. But it should never occur with one who believes in Jesus Christ and has submitted his or her life to Him.


When you meet with your pastor, start by asking him if you misunderstood him. None of us are perfect. It is possible that he did not communicate his intentions very well when he made the statement. Maybe you misunderstood. Did his leadership team disagree with him and direct a change? To first question him in this way would honor the Lord. If, during your conversation with him, you discover that he has not kept to his integrity, then you need to encourage him to make things right with God first and then the congregation. He needs to admit his sin. The issue is his integrity. If he rejects your counsel, then ask for a meeting with him and some of the leaders. Your goal should be to honor God and to show your pastor love.

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