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Bible Question:
Is oral sex within marriage wrong? Does the Bible say anything
against oral sex?
Bible Answer: God never talks about oral sex in the Bible directly, but He does provide us with a biblical principle that gives us the answer. The Biblical Principle. The Bible has a lot to say about sex. Sometimes God warns us to not have sex, and on other occasions He encourages us to have sex. For example, in Proverbs 6:23-26 we are warned to avoid having sex with someone who is not our spouse and in 2 Tim. 2:22 we are warned to flee all other kinds of sexual sins. Sex outside of marriage is forbidden. But within marriage, God encourages a husband and wife to have sex. Genesis 1:28 is a great example. Here God commands Adam and Eve to have sex in order to populate the earth. This command has never been revoked. Sex was God's idea. The Song of Solomon is the most sensuous and sexually explicit book in the Bible. Chapter four of the book describes physical relations between a husband and wife. There are no negative statements. There are no commands to pray before having sex. There are no warnings. Imagine an entire book of the Bible given to love and an entire chapter describing sexual intercourse. God designed sex and He encourages us to do it with our spouse and no one else. But what kind of sex? Are all kinds acceptable? The answer comes in Hebrews 13:4.
Here we discover that a husband and wife can defile the marriage bed. That is, they can commit a sexual sin and bring dishonor to their bed. The passage tells us that there are only two types of sexual sin which dishonor the marriage bed: fornication and adultery. Fornication includes pre-marital sex, adultery, incest, homosexuality/lesbianism, and bestiality. These sins are to be avoided. Adultery is sexual sin with someone who is not your spouse. Our Freedom. Since the marriage bed is only defiled by fornication and adultery, that implies that most other activities are acceptable. This would imply that oral sex is okay. God has given a husband and wife great freedom in the area of sex. Someone may read this and think that this is great for husbands. But there are many wives who want more sex than the husband does. This fact is often hidden by the media. Some wives will rejoice over this good news, as well as husbands. But we also want to give a warning. God never intended for the marriage bed to be a bed of abuse either. Both partners need to be in agreement about the type of sexual activity. God has commanded a husband to love and honor his wife (Eph. 5:25-26; 1 Pet. 3:7) and God has commanded the wife to love her husband (Titus 2:4). If we submit to the Lord's command, we will avoid unloving behavior within marriage. Conclusion: Oral sex within marriage should not become the predominant activity since God designed a man and woman for sex otherwise (Romans 1:27). |
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