You Can Help. The Bible does offer families and others in conflict some help. First, when someone speaks negatively to you, remember this “golden” verse.     A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. (NASB) Prov. 15:1   A hot-tempered man stirs up strife, But the slow to anger calms a dispute. Prov. 15:18   The beginning of strife is like letting out water, So abandon the quarrel before it breaks out. (NASB) Prov. 17:14   Keeping away from strife is an honor for a man, But any fool will quarrel. (NASB) Prov. 20:3   It works. It may not eliminate the other persons’ anger, but it will reduce it. When we respond negatively, we cause more hurt which then causes additional hurt. When we give kind answers to hurtful comments, we help the situation. We show God’s love.      Here is a great verse to remember when confronted by an angry person.     If the ruler's temper rises against you, do not abandon your position, because composure allays great offenses. (NASB) Eccelesiates 10:4   When we combine Proverbs 15:1, 18; Prov. 17:14 and Prov. 20:3 with this verse we have an important spiritual principle. When confronted by angry persons, do not retreat and give them what they want; give them a gentle answer. However, if you conclude the comment or criticism of you was correct, then you need to make things right. It honors God to apologize.      Second, when other people are in conflict, do not try to help.     Like one who takes a dog by the ears is he who passes by and meddles with strife not belonging to him. (NASB) Prov. 26:17   There are exceptions. A parent has the responsibility to take control and restore order, and so do church leaders as well as government officials. Employers have the same responsibility also. This verse means that you should avoid getting into an argument or debate between your sister and someone else. Avoid it.      Third, God wants you and your parents to love your sister. In the following passage from 1 Corinthians, I have highlighted a few key virtues of love.     Love does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails . . . (NASB) 1 Cor. 13:4-8   Hatred stirs up strife, But love covers all transgressions. (NASB) Prov. 10:12   Remember always be there for her. Finally, there is also a time to leave your sister alone – when you are about “to explode.”     An arrogant man stirs up strife . . . (NASB) Prov. 28:25   A fool always loses his temper, but a wise man holds it back. (NASB) Prov. 29:11   Did you notice that the wise man “holds back” his anger? A wise man rarely gets angry.   Conclusion:Pray for your sister!         < Back
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