When there is extra money, a man needs to share it with the family. In fact, how it is spent should be a joint decision with the wife and only in very rare, special situations should he decide otherwise. There are also women who push their husbands for more money - more than he can make (assuming he is not lazy and staying at home). The money that both the husband and wife earn should be owned by both. If the husband needs to find employment or change his job, then that is the answer. If the wife desires more money, then she should ask God to give her husband a promotion, a raise, or a change of work. It is time to submit to God and pray.      But if a husband is diligently doing what he can to support his family, a wife needs to express her support to him by being willing to accept their level of income as from the Lord. We must remember that God is our source and He is the One who ultimately decides how much we should have.     But if God so arrays the grass of the field, which is alive today and tomorrow is thrown into the furnace, will He not much more do so for you, O men of little faith? “Do not be anxious then, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘With what shall we clothe ourselves?’ “For all these things the Gentiles eagerly seek; for your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things. But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness; and all these things shall be added to you. (NASB) Matt. 6:33   The last part of this passage tells us why God does not meet our needs sometimes. We are not seeking Him first. This is a question both husband and wife need to ask. Life will not improve with one's current spouse or another spouse unless God comes first in our life.      How To Respond To A Spouse. Scripture never encourages us to vent our feelings on other people, including our sposue - as some advise. Such behavior is the world's wisdom to fix a broken, hurting heart, but this is not biblical. Such behavior does not encourage us to show each other love. It does not heal a wounded heart. It actually creates two hurting hearts. There is a time to share hurts and struggles in a controlled way, but venting one's feelings on another person in an attempt to "get it all out" actually creates more ill feelings.     Hatred stirs up strife, But love covers all transgressions. (NASB) Proverbs 10:12   A gentle answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger. (NASB) Proverbs 15:1   A hot-tempered man stirs up strife, But the slow to anger pacifies contention. (NASB) Proverbs 15:18     An arrogant man stirs up strife, But he who trusts in the LORD will prosper. (NASB) Proverbs 28:25   An angry man stirs up strife, And a hot-tempered man abounds in transgression. (NASB) Proverbs 29:22   How should one spouse respond to another spouse according to God? To one who threatens divorce or separation? The answer is "love" him or her. Give a "gentle answer," be "slow to anger" and start "trusting God" for your situation. We must not seek divorce or separation, but remember that God calls us to change our behavior in order to make our marriage God honoring and to rescue our spouse from sin.      Two Biblical Keys. There are two biblical keys that are missing in many Christian marriages today: submission and honor. The following verses are often taught in our churches with an ever increasing accommodation to the world's viewpoint.         < Back   Next >
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