have friends who attend a church together with their family and the wife
decided to leave the church. Should she leave even if the husband doesn't
want her to do so? Where in scripture can we find this answer?
Bible Answer: The general answer to your question
is, "No, the wife should attend church together with her husband." However,
there are some exceptions. There are several scriptures that must be
considered. The first passage deals with the situation where someone,
including a wife, encounters
The second deals with the issue of submission to a husband. We conclude
with the situation of conflict in the marriage.
The first passage is found in Revelation 2:20-23. This passage
reveals what can happen to a false teacher and to those who submit themselves
to false teaching and follow a false teacher. The passage clearly reveals
that God will give both the false teacher and those who listen and accept
what is taught time to repent. Those who who do not repent will
eventually be punished. However, if they stop listening to the false
teacher and stop participating, they can escape punishment.
But I have this against you, that you tolerate the woman
Jezebel, who calls herself a prophetess, and she teaches and leads My
bond-servants astray so that they commit acts of immorality and eat things
sacrificed to idols. I gave her time to repent, and she does not want
to repent of her immorality. Behold, I will throw her on a bed of sickness,
and those who commit adultery with her into great tribulation, unless
they repent of her deeds. And I will kill her children with pestilence,
and all the churches will know that I am He who searches the minds and
hearts; and I will give to each one of you according to your deeds. Rev
The message is simple. One must leave a church where the pastor is a
false teacher. A person should also leave a church if the pastor is not
faithfully teaching the Bible.
The second and third passages are found in Ephesians
and 1 Peter.
Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord.
Eph 5:22 (NAS95S)
In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own
husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they
may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, as they observe
your chaste and respectful behavior. 1 Pet 3:1-2 (NAS95S)
Both passages teach an important concept. A wife is to be submissive
when there is disagreement in the marital relationship. This does not
mean that the husband is the dictator. He is to have an open and gracious
discussion with his wife about any area of disagreement, but ultimately
his decision is final if they disagree.
Conclusion:In this situation, the wife has the
freedom to ignore her husband and refuse to attend the church if false
doctrine is being taught. Otherwise, she should be in attendance with
her husband. Before we conclude one must ask, "Is there physical abuse
in the marriage?" If so, we would encourage them to get into counseling