The expectation of every mother and father who have had a still-born child, aborted child, or had a young baby die for any reason is that the baby will be in heaven. That is a great blessing for the aborted child. I read the above passage in your conclusion about babies going to heaven. This has brought me great comfort since I am a woman with children in heaven. Does one remain a mother to children in heaven? Are they being taken care of by the angels? Do they have names...no names were given to the children? Will I recognize my child? I often dream of a little girl and always thought that this was my future child. Now I wonder if this is a child of mine in heaven.
For those who are reading this response, the author of the question has referred to a previous question and answer titled, “What happens to the souls of babies who die unbaptized?” The author has asked a series of great questions. So let’s start with 2 Samuel 12:23 which is discussed in that question and answer. The passage implies that we will know our children in heaven.
But now he has died; why should I fast? Can I bring him back again? I will go to him, but he will not return to me. (NASB) 2 Sam. 12:23
In this passage, King David says that he will go to his son some day. He will know him in heaven, even though he did not name, hold, feed, clothe, or know the child. Not only will we know our children, we should know other people – spouse, parents, relatives – as well, if they are in heaven.
Mommies In Heaven. Does one remain a mother to the child? The answer is yes in the sense that the children who are in heaven will know who their earthly mothers were. Will mothers in heaven actively mother their children? The answer is no! Just imagine that almost every woman will be a mother in heaven to someone. It would not be possible to have a “family” in heaven since everyone will be part of at least two families and then all of one’s ancestry.
Naming Babies In Heaven. Scripture does not tell us how the babies who are dead at birth or are aborted are named. Do they wait for their earthly mothers to give them a name? The answer has to be no, since some of the mothers will never make it to heaven in order to name them. We must assume that God will name them. What a joy it would be to be named by God. In heaven, God takes care of everyone. We do not need angels to care for us when we have a God who loves us more than I can even imagine and hope for. He knows our every need (Matt. 6:25-35).
Babies & Physical Deformities. It appears that in heaven, we will all be adults without sickness, deformity, pain, or suffering since Rev. 21:4 says,
. . . and He will wipe away every tear from their eyes; and there will no longer be any death; there will no longer be any mourning, or crying, or pain; the first things have passed away. (NASB) Rev. 21:4
Therefore, children who were aborted or were still-born will obviously not be dead in heaven or have their bodies shredded by the abortionist’s tools. How could they walk in heaven? Would God have Old Testament saints who were burned alive, or sawed to death walking around in heaven in a deformed state? How would they be able to eat fruit or drink water if they were still embryos or infants who could not walk? There is a wonderful truth about what heaven is like. There will be no pain or suffering. There will only be joy! I would encourage you to read a study about what heaven will be like. It is called, “Jesus Is Coming!”
When we get to heaven, we will have eternity to get to know everyone. We will have perfect memories, perfect bodies, and an incredible God. Heaven will be paradise. God will be there . . .